Today’s Dare
Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.
Ultimately my goal is to be able to stay at home with Rocky. Unfortunately where we live, while spectacular is costly. If we want to stay in our current situation then I have to work, and at that with two car payments, my getting paid once a month, and the added cost of the baby our "fun money" has been depleated. If I want to not work then we have to move, we have to pay off my credit cards, and while I'd be able to stay home with Rocky (even if not full time very close to it) our "fun money" would still be limited if not non-existant. This is a no brainer-I want to stay home thus I should be able to easily cut up the plastic, I should be able to not order cameras because I want them, I should be able to say "We're not going to the beach this summer" with a smile-but I don't and that causes strife between Barney and myself.
As he pointed out last night-he put $100 on a credit card for gift cards for our sitters--and he often does without "toys" for himself. Yet I recently confessed that I had ordered a new SLR (single lens reflex) digital camera that I was lusting after since Rocky was born. I do feel guilty for the purchase because he had asked me to cease using my credit cards--and I promised him that I would. Yet my wants over ruled my need/want to stay home with Rocky. Of course even after this discussion I told Barney to use the proceeds from his model train sale to buy "something fun for himself" to which he scoffed-"but I can pay off a credit card, or pay one down..." but in my attempt at justifying my nefarious activity...."But Barney it will be OK to spend it on something fun..."
So..while the camera still sits (boxed) on the dining room table I believe I may return it...and call the credit card companies and cancel them...for if I'm unable to physically use them I will have but no choice to bend to Barney's desire...but in the long run I will win too for I would be able to stay home with my baby...
3 comments:
Don't cancel them...it's better for your credit score to have "open to buy" credit than to have everything closed. Cut up the cards...that way, if you should have an emergency, you can call the credit card company to get a replacement card and not have the hassle of applying. That's what we've had to do.
Just posted on changing my spending habits. I'm working on it and it's going okay. If I want to retire from my present job this year, and I do, I need to be more frugal. It's hard to look at the long term when there are fun things in the short term.
I've flitted over to your blog sporadically (mostly because I love the name) from time because I see your comments often on Buttercup's blog. I haven't been here in ages and I'm delighted to hear about the baby.
My comment- for what it's worth- I went back to work after both babies- in a neighborhood where stay-at-home moms were the norm. It did give us the money to buy those cameras and the vacations to take pictures of- now that the girls are grown they treasure the photos, the memories and their relationship with neighborhood women who cared for them. It didn't turn out so badly after all.
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